So, today is one of those days that I would really like to run away.
I really have no excuse for my behavior. I feel like I am at the end of my rope. If I have to deal with one more crying, whining child I think I might go mad. I would like to just lock them both up in separate padded rooms and put myself in time out. Can there be a way to persuade a child that they want to do what you say. Heaven forbid they do what they are supposed to do, and avoid a big dent in their head. It is so much more fun when they can do exactly what they want and get into a bar of Lindt chocolate that even I can only eat a piece of or two a day with out getting sick. That way they can get it all over their body, the office chair and floor. Then squish it in their hand and enjoy the feel of soft chocolate.
Can someone suggest some methods of persuasion? Please!
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Oh Katie! I hear you...I to get to the end of my rope all too often and I only have one kid to deal with. With my daughter I have a system of reward/punishment going with her and it really seems to work. If she does something that she knows she shouldn't then a "privilege" gets taken away. These are thing like computer time, t.v. time, art time, game time, etc. So the other day she was having some art time while I took my shower and when I got out she came in to tell me that the tv got scratched. When I got in I saw that she had colored all over the tv with crayon. So art and tv time were taken away until she could earn them back. As for the reward system this goes for things that she has control over but aren't completely in her fault. So an example of this is Juliana is getting to big for naps so, I have started quiet time. She goes in her room for 1 1/2 hrs after lunch and plays quietly while I get time to myself. Well, she started to pee her pants during quite time even though she has been potty trained for over a year. So her reward is, if she keeps her pants dry all day, the next day she gets to wear princess panties and a skirt and pick out her own clothes. If she doesn't then she will wear what I tell her no argument. It is a good enough reward for her that I have had no more problems with her being lazy and peeing her pants. I don't know if that will help any but it has helped me and helped ease my frustration.
HA HA HA. Just ask me how happy I am that school is out and I have 4 crying girls all day long? Can we say PROZAC?
So my hubby grew up on "makeup jobs" When the kids were young his mom made a list of jobs that weren't so fun - but good to use as makeups for poor behavior.
As the kids got older, they often picked their own make up job. She claims that they ALWAYS picked a much harder make up than she would ever just hand out. I know that her biggest suggestion is to stay on "level zero" meaning - don't let your own frustration ooze out by way a yelling or what not. She teaches that it is much more effective to maintain your cool and simply inform the child that they will have to do a make up. (I usually just skip right to yelling and screaming) Sometimes it is hard to think of a make up to fit the crime..... if you know what I mean.
Rough days are just par for the course unfortunately. Isn't it great that every single mom out there can understand you!! :)
Take care - wish we lived close so we could get our little trouble making princesses together. :)
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